DBT Cheat Sheet for Therapists — Skills at a Glance

This is not a client handout. This is your reference. Each section shows you what the skill does, when to reach for it in session, how to introduce it in plain language, and a quick script for the first conversation about it.

What is in this cheat sheet

Module 1: Mindfulness — WHAT and HOW skills, when to reach for them, and how to introduce mindfulness to clients who expect something different from what DBT delivers.

Module 2: Distress Tolerance — TIPP (the first-line physiological regulation tool for acute crisis), ACCEPTS (distraction for getting through the next few hours), IMPROVE the Moment (soothing when you cannot escape), and Radical Acceptance with clinical language for the client who cannot stop fighting reality.

Module 3: Emotion Regulation — Check the Facts (when the emotion is disproportionate to the actual situation), Opposite Action (when the body needs to act its way into a different feeling), and ABC PLEASE (the physical and lifestyle foundation that makes everything else easier).

Module 4: Interpersonal Effectiveness — DEAR MAN (how to ask for something or say no), GIVE (maintaining the relationship while asking), and FAST (keeping self-respect in hard interactions). Including when to use which and how to combine them.

Quick diagnostic: which module first? — A decision table matching the client’s primary struggle to the right starting point.

First conversation scripts — how to introduce DBT skills to clients who are skeptical, confused, or resistant.

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